I have written that friends were those who kept me from going under. And that was so. And that experience makes me biased. But i believe in friendship and i believe that a man cannot stand alone. One needs someone to lean on, when times are tough. And tough times always come, sooner or later. When times are good, we tend to forget about it. I so have. But now i am reminded. And i am desperately trying not to forget. And i have learned something. Friends do not go away. They do not forget. I have mostly forgotten them for a year. I didn’t need them, or so i have thought. But they were there, when i needed them.
It is so easy to underestimate people. It is so easy to not give them the trust they deserve. And mistrust is a great enemy. If you do not trust, even a best friend cannot help. They may try as much as they want, but you will never find relief in them. It is too easy to spoil someone’s effort to help you. If you do not want to be helped. When you are afraid to lean on someone, lest they may step aside and let you fall. Just let it go. People are good. And if they let you fall, do not blame them. Everyone has their limits and can only carry so much weight on their shoulders. No matter how much you want to help someone, when the weight is too much, you just break and both of you fall.
And that is why it is important to have friends. To have more people to lean against. So the weight is not too much for them. So they are able to support you. And one has to trust each and every of them. They won’t let you fall. Don’t worry. Don’t you worry.
Make friends, it is easy. Smile. Make people feel good. Give them a little support when they are down. Help them out with little things. Talk nonsense, go out and have a beer. Trust them.
I have known many people over the time. And only very few of them have let me down. And those that have not made up many times for those few. I feel so lucky. And i wish for other people to make a similar experience. Don’t be discouraged if someone lets you down. People are good. That is a good belief. A good start to keep one’s sanity.
I hope you find yourself in these words, Elenna. Just a little bit.